“ If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.” – Frank A. Clark
Recreating my purpose in life has traditionally been a part of my norm. Hence, I have found if one is not careful that the reinvention of one’s purpose, passion, and essence can be at times too enticing and tiresome if not fostered in unconditional love. It takes balancing one’s self at their spiritual core to not rock the balance of life that shakes the mirror image of the insecurities we see within. For me, the title of this blog causes self-reflection to pause and question our reasoning to constantly seek a new beginning. In this journey of life, we go through a period of highs and lows with our emotions. These feelings, created by internal and external forces, cause a battle between how the world views us and how we face our convictions. In periods of stress or change, we digress our heightened emotional state to find internal peace for only a moment of clarity.
Developing and sustaining what it means to love our imperfections and accept the love from one who embraces our desires is almost a surreal experience. This blog does not contain steps or tips to assist you with embracing a “new love or life” for yourself. I don’t have the road-map for that journey exactly. However, I can share with you my inner most thoughts on a journey that we as human beings don’t give ourselves enough credit--self-exploration. The individuals that I meet that wish to have it all figured out right now consistently amaze me. I do fall into this category at times. LOL. Yes, I do understand the need to have control over areas in your life and a sense of direction. Nevertheless, I hope that individuals do not merely exist accepting that one’s chaos is the daily norm, but I hope that we embrace these moments as unforeseen stepping-stones leading us forward to capture seen and unseen possibilities.
Embracing a new beginning is one of the many "constants" in life. However, we don't usually spend all that much time thinking about why our relationships should change or specifically expanding on our ability to adapt to something or someone that will challenge us -- we usually deal with it from a place of survival, reaction or necessity. What if we embraced our new beginning more consciously and learned how to not only "manage" it, but also thrive through it? Whether you're someone who enjoys a new start and handles it quite well, or you hate it and get totally stressed out by it, all of us can benefit from embracing change more deliberately and supporting those around us as we all go through the big and small changes of life. Coping with factors such as wanting more time in life, competing against others, healing from the pain of violence, anger from past hurts, greed defined by worldly definitions of success, and the need for our feelings to be positively reinforced are extraordinary dimensions of how our psyche perceives trust and self worth that might want to be addressed before a new beginning can commence. So, where do I begin?
I am all for rational thinking. Yet with this topic of discussion, I implore you to think from your heart. Your rational mind creates duality, always positioning the dark against the light. Thinking from your heart clears the way to embrace your reality. Thinking from your heart enables you to see the wonders that are ahead instead of the obstacles faced in the past or present. In the words of Steve Jobs, “Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
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